来自哈佛大学的六个幸福秘诀
People love psychology. Let me clarify that. People love Positive Psychology sometimes called the psychology of happiness.
And the study of happiness seemed to be pretty popular with Harvard students. That year, Tal Ben-Shahar’s class there on “How to get happy” (his words) packed them in at an estimated 900 students.
And what’s the professors advice on happiness?
Well he has six tips about the discovering happiness in your life:
Six Tips For Happiness by Tal Ben-Shahar
1. Give yourself permission to be human. When we accept emotions — such as fear, sadness, or anxiety — as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.
1.接受自己全然为人。
失望、烦乱、悲伤是人性的一部分。接纳这些,并把它们当成自然之事,允许自己偶尔的失落和伤感。然后问问自己,能做些什么来让自己感觉好过一点。
2. Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness boosters, moments throughout the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.
2.遵从你内心的热情。
选择对你有意义并且能让你快乐的课,不要只是为了轻松地拿一个A 而选课, 或选你朋友上的课,或是别人认为你应该上的课。
3. Keep in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well being is determined by what we choose to focus on (the full or the empty part of the glass) and by our interpretation of external events. For example, do we view failure as catastrophic, or do we see it as a learning opportunity?
3. 学会失败。
成功没有捷径,历史上有成就的人,总是敢于行动,也会经常失败。不要让对失败的恐惧,绊住你尝试新事物的脚步。
4. Simplify! We are, generally, too busy, trying to squeeze in more and more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much.
4.简化生活。
更多并不总代表更好,好事多了, 不一定有利。你选了太多的课吗?参加了太多的活动吗?应求精而不在多。
5. Remember the mind-body connection. What we do — or don’t do — with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.
5. 有规律地锻炼。
体育运动是你生活中最重要的事情之一。每周只要3 次,每次只要30 分钟, 就能大大改善你的身心健康。
6. Express gratitude, whenever possible. We too often take our lives for granted. Learn to appreciate and savor the wonderful things in life, from people to food, from nature to a smile.
6. 表达感激。
生活中,不要把你的家人、朋友、健康、教育等这一切当成理所当然的。它们都是你回味无穷的礼物。记录他人的点滴恩惠,始终保持感恩之心。每天或至少每周一次,请你把它们记下来。
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